The Compound Effect of Your Attention
I started this post with my third cup of green tea this morning. I will finish it sometime today with a cup of unsweetened non-alkalized cocoa. Self-care. Like “Water for Chocolate” , it matters how you feel when you create something!
Whatever and whomever you give your attention to will develop and change your life pattern. Attention will deliver fulfillment, temporary confusion, or emptiness. Discernment is key. Following the crowd or noticing what resonates with you leads in different directions. When you feel like blaming something outside yourself for your experience it is time to ask this BIG QUESTION: Where and what am I giving my attention to?
Darren Hardy, founder of SUCCESS magazine and author of THE COMPOUND EFFECT shares a story about the transformative energy of ATTENTION in his book. It is the story of how he transformed his marriage.
One Thanksgiving, I decided to keep a Thanks Giving journal for my wife. Every day for an entire year I logged at least one thing I appreciated about her – the way she interacted with her friends, hou she cared for our dogs, the fresh bed she prepared, a succulent meal…whatever. I looked for the things my wife was doing that touched me, or revealed attributes, characteristics, or qualities I appreciated. I wrote them all down secretly for the entire year.
Darren describes how his wife cried when he gave her this “best ever” gift. Who was most affected? Darren says it was him because the practice not only changed what he was looking for it also changed the way he showed up in his marriage. His deliberate and daily practice of attention changed his marriage and the nature of their relationship.
Wow. You can change the nature of your relationship to anything by changing the quality and quantity of your attention over time.
Time and Attention, Our Most Precious Resources
Giving time and attention to your self-care priorities is the most important action you can make towards fulfilling your life goals and your heart’s desires.
No apologies or explanations are necessary. Have you noticed that when you start apologizing for or explaining a personal choice the energy around your decision starts to sink? Why is that? Maybe it is because your attention and time has shifted to something unnecessary: apologizing and explaining!
This all sounds very simple. It is until the inevitable distractions and feelings of failure and overwhelm creep in, grab our attention and send our best ideas packing. Break throughs, weight loss, better health, fulfilling relationships, more happiness, creative insights, the right customers, meaningful careers, the “right” job, a completed project can’t happen without our decision to show up on our own behalf everyday and make it count through attention and action.
Yes, Attention is Your Wand.
Imagine a world where we all stopped wasting our attention. What precious part of your life is suffering from “attention deficit disorder”?
Eliminating “attention deficit disorder” from self-care and all that this means to you is the “WHY” behind the web app QSELFCARE. Some people call this “aspirational”. We call it #smart #practical #makesadifference #couragegenerator #clarifier #success #change #whole #liberating #you
I admire Darren Hardy for noticing and noting the admirable qualities and characteristics of his wife on a daily basis. His approach gave me the great idea to do the same for someone in my life. Fortunately, I have a subscription to QSELFCARE.com to help me manage my attention! You can too! No excuses. The organic cocoa was delicious.
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